Most of us experience frustration on a daily basis. Then this emotional upset passes and a new emotional state enters our minds. The question is; How much frustration can one endure on any given day?
From the time we wake up in the morning till we return to our beds at night we experience an array of emotions that determine how we felt about our day. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, Frustration is defined as feeling annoyed or less confident because you cannot achieve what you want. However, this definition does not describe what are our reactions to feeling annoyed or not being able to achieve what we want.
If we experience the inability to truly express ourselves we may feel angry our sad, however, these emotions stem from feeling frustrated. You want to describe your trip over vacation and you are unable to say the name of the place where you traveled. The person you are so desperately trying to converse with is desperately trying to be patient as they may be late for something, and all you want is to share information about your trip! You may begin to sweat, your heart races, your muscles tense. Your entire body including your internal organs freeze.
Then the 20 question game begins:
1. Where did you go on your trip? "up, up"
2. Maybe up North? "Yes, Yes, North, Uh... Europe"
3. Northern part of Europe? "No, no, South".
4. France, no, Spain, no, Italy? "Yes, Yes! But no, down, down Italy".
5. Southern Italy? Maybe Rome, no, Naples, no? "Boats, water, bridge".
6. You went to Venice? "Yes, Yes!"
Frustration. Not being able to express what you want to achieve; not efficiently and not effectively.
It would have been a lot easier if one could have answered, "I had a great time in Venice".
It is also frustrating for the individual's family, friend, or loved one. They want to help and they want to make it easier and less painful for them. The fact is, it is uncomfortable for the listener or the individual involved in the conversation. People are always pressed for time. We are a newly improved generation, a highly evolved species producing offspring which requires various forms of medication for anxiety or ADHD to function properly. We are the human race that embodies frustration.
This is ultimately due to the fact that we have little or no patience. We are frustrated because we can't sit still. We have somewhere better to be or something more pressing and urgent to deal with. We have time constraints and deadlines. When we have to wait for someone to finish what they want to say we clench our fists, look at the clock, or look away. We think that by filling in the blanks to their sentences, or initiate the '20 question game' sooner, we are doing them a favor. It will speed up the process, it will make them less frustrated and it will make us feel better, no?
Individuals who have speech limitations want and need time to communicate. They need time to formulate their sentences or make the physiological connection between one simple word they want to say by attaching it to their mouth to produce it. They want us to be patient. Love is not the only thing that makes the world go around, patience is. Patience is one of the keys to unlock frustration. For some people patience is innate, and for others it is acquired over time. Whether it comes naturally to us, or we have to work hard at it, our patience is tested on a daily basis. Ultimately, with or without pills, we have the power to decide how we want to cope with our frustrations. In truth, patience is truly a virtue.
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